Komal님의 프로필On Being a Mommy사진블로그리스트기타 도구 도움말
    7월 24일

    Crazy kids!

    My kids are nuts.  Just so you know: my kids are nuts.  At least the little one is.
     
    Terrible 2's, my eye!!  This kid's been 3 for a couple of months, and she just gets crazier every day.  This new thing she does where she wants to run through parking lots is just scary!  What is WITH her?!  And then she laughs about it!  Like driving Mommy to a nervous breakdown is something to giggle about.  I have to hold on to that child's hand like... well, I don't know like what, but tight!
     
    They're not called nervous breakdowns anymore, are they?  Well, whatever they're called, I'm headed right for one.  Sigh.
     
    I don't think that I'll ever figure out this mommyhood thing!  Is there a single correct way to deal with the insanity and chaos that children bring?  Now what am I supposed to do with a 3-year-old who thinks that running away from Mommy in a parking lot is a fun game?  I've explained the dangers repeatedly, I've yelled, I've begged.... do I keep her in a stroller at all times?
     
    I think I'm gonna have to put my kid on a leash.
    6월 16일

    bored

    I need to do something fun this weekend.  You hear so much about how we spend all our time taking care of everyone else and don't spend any time on ourselves... and about how important it is to take time for yourself.  Blah, blah, blah.  Who has that kind of time?
     
    On the other hand, I think I need to go out to the movies with friends... or something.  Anything, as long as it's without the kids.  I'm not entirely sure why.  I mean, they're being good, so it isn't that.  Maybe I just need some grown-up time.  And it's so sad that even when we moms get together, all we talk about are the kids.
     
    Who knew that being a mom would be so all-consuming?  I mean, I knew that once I had kids my whole world would revolve around them.  But I had no idea that once I had kids, my whole world would revolve around them. :)
    5월 31일

    lil green patch

     
    4월 27일

    Why women don't always tell the whole truth

    from an email i got...

    One day, when a seamstress was sewing while sitting close to a river, her thimble fell into the river. When she cried out, the Lord appeared and asked, 'My dear child, why are you crying?' The seamstress replied that her thimble had fallen into the water and that she needed it to help her husband in making a living for their family. The Lord dipped His hand into the water and pulled up a golden thimble set with sapphires.
      
    Is this your thimble?' the Lord asked, The seamstress replied, 'No.'

    The Lord again dipped into the river. He held out a golden thimble studded with rubies.                                                            
    'Is this your thimble?' the Lord asked. Again, the seamstress replied, 'No.'

    The Lord reached down again and came up with a leather thimble.                                                   
    'Is this your thimble ?' the Lord asked. The seamstress replied, 'Yes.'

    The Lord was pleased with the woman's honesty and gave her all three thimbles to keep, and the seamstress went home happy.

    Some years later, the seamstress was walking with her husband along the riverbank, and her husband fell into the river and disappeared under the water. When she cried out, the Lord again appeared and asked her, 'Why are you crying?' 'Oh Lord, my husband has fallen into the river!'
                                
    The Lord went down into the water and came up with George Clooney.. 'Is this your husband?' the Lord asked.
                                 
    'Yes,' cried the seamstress.
     
    The Lord was furious. 'You lied! That is an untruth!' The seamstress replied, 'Oh, forgive me, my Lord. It is a misunderstanding. You see, if I had said 'no' to George Clooney, you would have come up with Brad Pitt.  Then if I said 'no' to him, you would have come up with my husband. Had I then said 'yes,' you would have given me all three. Lord, I'm not in the best of health and would not be able to take care of all three husbands, so THAT'S why I said 'yes' to George Clooney.

    And so the Lord let her keep him.


    The moral of this story is: Whenever a woman lies, it's for a good and honorable reason, and in the best interest of others. That's our story, and we're sticking to it.

                                     Signed,
                                    All Us Women

    8월 9일

    my avatar

     
     
    7월 7일

    im still me... right?

    so i was writing an email earlier giving people an update on my life.  and i wrote, nothing new-- same old, same old.  but now i realize thats not quite true.
    Aging Woman
    -- i have 1/3 of the hair i used to
    -- i have 10 more pounds on me than i used to
    -- my brain not working so good as it used to did
    -- i can't remember simple words anymore
    -- i can no longer navigate my way anywhere with a map-- its either upside-down or... i dont know, the wrong state
    -- i havent gotten a full night's sleep in... oh, 4ish years
    -- it takes me 7 weeks to read a book that used to take 7 hours.
    -- i drive a minivan-- a MINIVAN!
    -- i swear, some days i think i hear my bones creak
    -- i can see where my first wrinkles will be someday-- in the far, faaarrr off future, i hope
     
    theres more, of course, but ive hurt my brain just thinking of these...  oiy, my head!  Lumpy  
     
      

    where ive been

     
    6월 27일

    sicko!

     
    'What can I do?' - SiCKO
    6월 5일

    U.S. Weather Search

     
     
    5월 23일

    BEANS!

    Beans, beans, the musical fruit.
    The more you eat, the more you toot.
    The more you toot, the better you feel.
    So let's eat beans for every meal!

    4월 10일

    Emergency Cell Phone Use

    this was too useful to not pass on.  it came from http://www.cellnumbers.com/emergency-cell.aspx  keep smiling, people. :)

    Emergency Cell Phone UseThere are not many people out there that plan on an emergency. We have all passed a horrible wreck or seen the news and hope that we never have to experience the unexpected. Unfortunately, accidents do happen and sometimes your cell phone is the only thing that can save you. Make sure that you know how to be prepared for an emergency so that you don't have to suffer or make others wonder about your medical care.

    There are many people out there that don't want to have anything to do with a cell phone. Usually those same people are the ones who can benefit from them the most, however. Some people consider cell phone plans to be too complicated or filled with too many bells and whistles, but not all cell phones come with email, text messaging or extravagant price plans. There is, in fact, a cell phone on the market that acts as an insurance policy for those who are reluctant to get involved in a cell phone.

    The Jitterbug Dial phone is a phone that is simple and easy to use with either a one touch dialing or emergency plan. The phones look like a regular flip phone, but when lifting the top will reveal three large buttons labeled "My Choice", "Operator", and "Emergency". The Jitterbug phone has many different plans and packages. Their emergency assistance cell phone plan runs at about ten dollars a month and carries a thirty-day money back guarantee.

    As for the rest of the population who have access to everyday cell phones, emergency numbers are arranged by state. For Alaska, California, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Hawaii, Idaho, Illinois, Indiana, Louisiana, Michigan, Minnesota, Nevada, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, Oregon, Pennsylvania, South Dakota, Texas, Utah, Virginia, and Wisconsin the emergency numbers are still 911. However, there are different numbers for all of the other states and they can be found online by using a search engine to look up your particular area.

    The best thing that you can do for your emergency cell phone number needs is to create an ICE spot in your phone book. ICE stands for "in case of emergency" and it will let paramedics know whom to call if you are ever incapacitated at a scene. Having these numbers in a designated area of your phone will also allow for faster medical care when the hospital is trying to overcome all of the red tape involved in an anonymous victim. The ICE will be helpful if you are an organ donor and passionate about your viable organs being used to help others because, by law, the hospital will need permission from your next of kin. Don't forget to put any allergies or current medications in this slot as well.

    You can never be too prepared for an emergency and your cell phone can do wonders for you. If you are ever abducted, you can press one button and reach an operator if you have emergency numbers programmed into your phone. If you are in a car accident, your identity can be matched by assigning emergency contacts on your phone. If you witness an accident, your emergency contact on your cell phone could mean the difference in saving someone's life. Make sure to take the steps you need to make yourself as protected as possible.

     
    Copyright © 2007 CellNumbers.com, a property of AP Web Inc.
    1월 3일

    Happy everything, everyone!

    hey, all!  Eid Mubarak, Merry Christmas, Happy Hannukah , Happy Kwanzaa, and a very Happy New Year to everyone!
      Eid Greeting                   Christmas Lights                     Menorah               Happy Kwanzaa 
     
     
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    may all your dreams come true in 2007, making it the best year yet!  keep smiling, all.
    10월 24일

    Eid Mubarak!!

    Eid Mubarak to everyone!  hope u had a great one. :)
    10월 20일

    Islamic Literature for Non-Muslims

    Hey, all.  Well, in the spirit of Ramadan, I've been poking around at all my favorite Muslim/Islamic info websites, and I found something good at IslamiCity.com.  They have free literature about Islam for non-Muslims, which is a great program.  Anyone interested in learning about Islam and Muslims should visit them at http://www.islamicity.com/freeliterature/.  And I strongly encourage Muslims to click here to donate a few dollars to keep this program of accurate information running.
     
    Keep smiling, everyone.  Have a great weekend and a blessed Eid! 
    10월 17일

    The Merits of Fasting

    i got this from the usc-msa compendium of Muslim texts.  it's from Essentials of Ramadan, The Fasting Month by Tajuddin B. Shu`aib, which seems like a great resource for anyone wanting to learn about Ramadan.  (click here to go to the site and read the entire text)  

    THE MERITS OF FASTING

    Islam is built on five pillars. Each represents a unique utility, an institution, if you will, through which the believer builds his relationship with the Creator and the creation. Of all the pillars of Islam, none is more special than siyaam, fasting. While there may be an appearance of Riya, eye service, or show, in all other pillars - Salaat, Zakaat, Hajj, and even the Kalimah - there is no such possibility in fasting. The only One who knows that you are really abstaining is Allah, the Almighty. It is easy to pretend to be fasting; while in hiding, you may eat or drink. Thus, fasting is considered a special worship, as Hadith reports from the Messenger of Allah (saas) have detailed.

    It has been reported by the way of Abu Hurairah (raa) that the Prophet (saas) reported that Allah (SWT) said in a Hadith Al-Qudsi: "All services of the son of Adam are for him except fasting. It is for Me, and I will reward him for it. Fasting is a shield. On the day you fast, do not use obscenity, nor yell at others, nor act ignorantly towards them. However, if anyone abuses you verbally or attempts to draw you to fight with him, say 'I am fasting' two times. The Prophet (saas) then states: I swore by the One (Allah) in Whose Hand is the soul of Muhammad, the breath of the faster is sweeter to Allah on the Day of Judgment than the scent of musk. The faster experiences enjoyment twice: he is pleased when he breaks his fast, and he is pleased when he meets his Maker" (Muslim)

    Among the points this incisive hadith revealed is that fasting is Allah's. Certainly, there is only one reason why a believer will put himself or herself through this trying physical exercise that - to seek the pleasure of Allah (SWT). The fast is the single most important device to test the Iman, faith, of the believer and the depth of his sincerity and commitment to the concept of Tauheed, the Oneness of Allah.

    The hadith also states that fasting is a shield, an armor protecting the believer from sinful acts (ma'asi). Do you not know that nourishment is the first culprit in the propagation of sins? For when you eat, the blood flow increases considerably, and the energy level increases, making it easier for Satan to use your own energy level to tempt you to commit sins. In another hadith, the Prophet states: "Satan runs in the circulatory system of the son of Adam in the same way blood circulates in our system; so tighten his passages with hunger." (Bukhari/Muslim)

    Now you see why fasting becomes a shield. Fasting enables the believer to guard against his archenemy. It also helps him against human evil by putting the patience and perseverance gained from fasting into use with forbearance and forgiveness of the attacker - that is, of course, when the safety of ones life is not involved. Otherwise, in this case, Al-Qur'an allows the believer to repel evil without transgression.

    10월 8일

    grades of fasting-- book excerpt

    i found this in the Ramadan info on soundvision.com and liked the message.  keep smiling, everyone.
     
     
    Inner Dimension of Fasting:
    Excerpts from Ghazali's Inner Dimention of Islamic Worship

    Three grades of fasting

    It should be known that there are three grades of fasting: ordinary, special and extra-special.

    Ordinary fasting means abstaining from food, drink.

    Special fasting means keeping one's ears, eyes,tongue, hands and feet-and

    all other organs-free from sin.

    Extra-special fasting means fasting of the heart from unworthy concerns and worldly thoughts, in total disregard of everything but Allah.

    See not what displeases Allah

    A chaste regard, restrained from viewing anything that is blameworthy or reprehensible, or which distracts the heart and diverts it from the remembrance of God. The Prophet, said: the furtive glance is one of the poisoned arrows of Satan, on him be God's curse. Whoever forsakes it for fear of God, will receive from Him, great and gracious is He, a faith the sweetness of which he will find within his heart.'

    Jabir relates from Anas that God's Messenger, on him be peace,said: 'Five things break a man's fast: lying,backbiting, scandalmongering, perjury and a lustful gaze.'

    Speak no evil

    Guarding one's tongue from twaddle, lying, backbiting, scandalmongering, obscenity, rudeness, wrangling and controversy; making it observe silence and occupying it with remembrance of Allah and with recitation of the Quran.

    This is the fasting of the tongue. Sufyan said: "backbiting vitiates the fast." Layth quotes Mujahid as saying : "Two habits vitiate fasting: backbiting and telling lies.'

    The Prophet said: ' Fasting is a shield; so when one of you is fasting he should not use foul or foolish talk. If someone attacks him or insults him, let him say:"I am fasting, I am fasting!"

    Hear no evil

    Closing one's ears to everything reprehensible; for everything unlawful

    to utter is likewise unlawful to listen to. That is why Allah equated the eavesdropper with the profiteer " (They like to) listen to falsehood, to devour anything forbidden" (part of Quran 5: 42).

    Do no evil

    Keeping all other limbs and organs away from sin: the hands and feet from reprehensible deeds, and the stomach from questionable food at the time for breaking fast.

    It is meaningless to fast, to abstain from lawful food, only to break one's Fast on what is unlawful.

    The object of Fasting is to induce moderation. The Prophet said 'How many of

    those who Fast, get nothing from it but hunger and thirst!'

    Avoid overeating

    Of what use is the fast as a means of conquering God's enemy and abating appetite, if at the time of breaking it not only makes up for all one has missed during the daytime, but perhaps also indulges in a variety of extra foods?

    It has even become the custom to stock up for Ramadan with all kinds of foodstuffs, so that more is consumed during that time  than in the course of several other months put together.

    It is well known that the object of fasting is to experience hunger and to check desire, in

    order to reinforce the soul in piety.

    If the stomach is starved from early morning till evening, so that it's appetite is aroused and it's craving intensified, and it is then offered delicacies and allowed to eat its fill, its taste for pleasure is increased and its force exaggerated; passions are activated which would have lain dormant under normal conditions.

    It is therefore essential to cut down one's intake of what one would consume on a normal night, when not Fasting. No benefit is derived from the fast if one consumes as much as he or she would usually take during the day and night combined.

    Look to Allah with fear and hope

    After the fast has been broken, the heart should swing like a pendulum between fear and hope. For one does not know if one's fast will be accepted, so that one will find favor with God, or whether it will be rejected, leaving one among those He abhors. This is how one should be at the end of any act of worship one performs.

    .......[order Inner Dimention of Islamic Worship] By Imam Ghazali

    10월 4일

    Ramadan Mubarak!

    For all of you fasting right now during the holy month of Ramadan-- Ramadan Mubarak!  May Allah accept your fasts and reward you richly for them.  Ameen.
     
     Blessed Ramadan And in the spirit of Ramadan, I'll try to keep some info on Islam coming this month.  Keep smilng, everyone!
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    The Sermon Given By The Prophet (s) On The Last Friday Of Sha'ban On The
    Reception Of The Month of Ramadhan
    "O People!

    Indeed ahead of you is the blessed month of Allah.

    A month of blessing, mercy and forgiveness.

    A month which with Allah is the best of months.

    Its days, the best of days; its nights, the best of nights; and its hours,
    the best of hours.

    It is the month which invites you to be the guests of Allah and invites you
    to be one of those near to Him.

    Each breath you take glorifies Him; your sleep is worship, your deeds are
    accepted and your supplications are answered.

    So, ask Allah, your Lord; to give you a sound body and an enlightened heart
    so you may be able to fast and recite His book, for only he is unhappy who
    is devoid of Allah's forgiveness during this great month.

    Remember the hunger and thirst of the day of Qiyamah (Judgement) with your
    hunger and thirst; give alms to the needy and poor, honor your old, show
    kindness to the young ones, maintain relations with your blood relations;
    guard your tongues, close your eyes to that which is not permissible for
    your sight, close your ears to that which is forbidden to hear, show
    compassion to the orphans of people so compassion may be shown to your
    orphans.

    Repent to Allah for your sins and raise your hands in dua during these
    times, for they are the best of times and Allah looks towards his creatures
    with kindness, replying to them during the hours and granting their needs
    if he is asked...

    O People! Indeed your souls are dependant on your deeds, free it with
    Istighfar (repentance) , lighten its loads by long prostrations; and know
    that Allah swears by his might: That there is no punishment for the one who
    prays and prostrates and he shall have no fear of the fire on the day when
    man stands before the Lord of the worlds.

    O People! One who gives Iftaar to a fasting person during this month will
    be like one who has freed someone and his past sins will be forgiven."

    Some of the people who were there then asked the Prophet (s): "Not all of
    us are able to invite those who are fasting?"

    The Prophet (s) replied: "Allah gives this reward even if the Iftaar is a
    drink of water."

    "One who has good morals (Akhlaq) during this month will be able to pass
    the 'Siraat'...on the day when feet will slip...

    One who covers the faults of others will benefit in that Allah will curb
    His anger on the day of Judgement...

    As for one who honors an orphan; Allah will honor him on the day of
    judgement.

    And for the one who spreads his kindness, Allah will spread His mercy over
    him on the day of Judgement.

    As for the one who cuts the ties of relation; Allah will cut His mercy from
    him...

    Who so ever performs a recommended prayer in this month, Allah will keep
    the fire of Hell away from him...

    Whoever performs an obligator prayer, Allah will reward him with seventy
    prayers [worth] in this month.

    And who so ever prays a lot during this month will have his load lightened
    on the day of measure.

    He who recites one verse of the holy Quran will be given the rewards of
    reciting the whole Qur'an during other months.

    O People! Indeed during this month the doors of heaven are open, therefore
    ask Allah not to close them for you;

    The doors of hell are closed, so ask Allah to keep them closed for you.

    During this month Shaytan (Satan) is imprisoned so ask your Lord not to let
    him have power over you."

    8월 14일

    Happy Independence Day, Pakistan!

    Jashn-e-Azaadi Mubarak, all u Pakistanis reading this. :)  Hope you have a great one!
    8월 11일

    sleep

    what i dont get is this:  why do babies need so much help getting to sleep (and staying asleep)?  sonia used to do this too, and now alisha is doing it.  they just howl and howl and howl and howl and howl and-- well, u get it-- until they finally fall asleep.  and its not like im just letting them howl.  this is with constant rocking and bouncing and singing to and talking to...  still, half an hour at least.  i just dont get it.  i mean, its fine; they're babies-- crying is kinda part of the job description.  and i keep telling alisha (like i used to tell her sister), "okay, ure sleepy.  i get it.  so go to sleep!  whos stopping you?".

    apparently they no understanding so good when they small. 

    thank God alisha is a good kid who really doesnt cry unless shes sleepy.  or hungry.  or... no, thats it.  so im not exactly complaining... not really.  im just trying to understand why getting urself to sleep is something u have to work so hard to learn.  eh, whatever.  just doing my normal rant here. :)  hope everyone has a great weekend.  keep smiling!  :)

    im off for another cup of coffee...